1) "lets just be friends" is just the other persons way of softening the blow; but that would imply that they actually care about you. If you were not friends before you went out, your not gonna be friends after. Move on.
2) Lets just be friends doesn't work even if you WERE friends; all it is is a false illusion created by the two of you to try and block out what has happened thusfar; it does not work. Both will be finding ways to be vengeful to each other, not because you want to or hate the other person, but because you still want to be involved with each other and doing something mean is a way of showing emotion. Why give a fake smile every day to the girl when you can psych out her new boyfriend instead? Sure she's angry after, but deep down, just keep telling yourself that she's really thanking you.
3) Never cheat. You don't want someone doing it to you, don't do it to other people. If you want to move on, break it off and move on.
4) If you like another person enough to cheat, but not enough to break it off with the person you had, then you don't like that new person enough.
5) people cheat because they think they can get away with having both girls. This rapidly gets expensive; get a second job before attempting. And don't attempt. If your a bastage that does it anyway, you deserve whats going to eventually come to you.
6) if you plan on cheating, make it known publically. Either the person your with will be into it, or disgusted and throw the nearest handy beverage in your face. Either way, it's weight off your chest; if she does not like it, you don't have to worry about cheating because it's over. If she does like it.... well your in like sin. 3! <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo-->
7) Sunscreen good.
8) I hope you get that reference.
9) If flirting is the game that you enjoy; and captureing your "prize" brings you no joy and awkward silences, maybe you should train yourself less in flirting and more in making a girl happy once you've got her. THATS the hard part gents.
10) It's alot harder to do all of this than it is to type all of this.
11) Don't listen to anything I say.
12) I don't know what I'm talking about either; but I did stay at a holiday inn last night.
Actually, my best and worst breakup is when I had to move away (being a military brat and all)
I moved before bad things came to the relationship (arguments etc). It sucked that I moved, but at least all I can remember is the good times.
And then I come to visit.
Lovely- especially when she says "yeah we'll still go out, sounds good" and then when I get down there I visited her... and she told me about her new boyfriend. I think thats messed up; not that she got a new b/f, I don't blame her because I only get to visit every once in a while, but the fact that she didn't TELL me till I got down there sucked, because I kept saying no to girls who wanted to go out with me here because "I was still seeing my g/f where I used to live"
Long distance relationships = the lewz.
But it's ok. I've been in limbo since 2000 just sittin in my room and only going out for school... I gave up a social life, but on the plus side I model pretty well now <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo-->
<!--QuoteBegin--Jammer+Jun 21 2003, 04:10 AM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Jammer @ Jun 21 2003, 04:10 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> I broke my hand.
Just a joke, but let's see who gets it. <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> The sad thing is, I get it. <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo-->
<!--QuoteBegin--Narfwak+Jun 21 2003, 12:41 AM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Narfwak @ Jun 21 2003, 12:41 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin--Jin-Roh+Jun 21 2003, 12:54 AM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Jin-Roh @ Jun 21 2003, 12:54 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> i'm about 16.5 right now. so i can't say i've had very many actual relationships so far.
my only "real" relationship (i guess i'll use the word "real" for now) was with a chick i'll call MG. reminds me of machineguns. anyway, we initially got on ok, but the relationship was kinda thin. more physically experimental. we're f*ckin 16, right? anyway, about a month in, things are getting really f*ckin thin, so i ask her
what are we doing?
and of course she has no real answer... and because we weren't really doing anything meaningful at all, we just split.
it's unfortunate that most of the girls my age (maybe just in my area, near SF) are superficial, and transparent, at the same time. no substance. they flirt and act like they need a "real" relationship with a "real" guy. well i've got substance, but apparently, it actually <i>DOESN'T</i> matter who they're going out with, because it doesn't mean <i>anything</i>.
it's a sad, sad story. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> You, sir, have hit the nail on the cranium. What's worse is that so many people consider having "relationships" to be a symbol of social status, despite the fact that most of the people with insane, "pimped-out" "relationships" are either ridiculously moronic or hopelessly depressed.
Oh, and the broken hand joke is great <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Ex-frickin-actly! Drawing your identity, defining who you are, through relationships is just setting yourself up for failure.
<!--QuoteBegin--Burncycle+Jun 21 2003, 06:58 AM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Burncycle @ Jun 21 2003, 06:58 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> 2) Lets just be friends doesn't work even if you WERE friends; all it is is a false illusion created by the two of you to try and block out what has happened thusfar; it does not work. Both will be finding ways to be vengeful to each other, not because you want to or hate the other person, but because you still want to be involved with each other and doing something mean is a way of showing emotion. Why give a fake smile every day to the girl when you can psych out her new boyfriend instead? Sure she's angry after, but deep down, just keep telling yourself that she's really thanking you.
3) Never cheat. You don't want someone doing it to you, don't do it to other people. If you want to move on, break it off and move on.
7) Sunscreen good.
9) If flirting is the game that you enjoy; and captureing your "prize" brings you no joy and awkward silences, maybe you should train yourself less in flirting and more in making a girl happy once you've got her. THATS the hard part gents.
10) It's alot harder to do all of this than it is to type all of this.
11) Don't listen to anything I say. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Wow! Well you made a doozy of a post. Let's start with the points I want to comment more on. 2.I would like to disagree with that one. Time heals all wounds, and if you can't be friends with people you once dated, you dated for the wrong reasons. I'm 20 and have very neutral relationships with 3 of my ex-girlfriends. I think this comes more with time and age (read: maturity). Just be patient.
3. Can't argue with that. I am ashamed to admit that I cheated on someone, and even though I knew I had to break things off with her (which I did) it makes people with morals feel bad&dirty&awful. Don't do it, kthxbye.
7.I can't agree more with this one, either. Sunscreen will help prevent skin cancer, something that many of our generation seems to be oblivious to. Anybody heard those fun stories about Melonoma from your grandparents? And <b>they</b> didn't go to Tanning beds to get their skin cancer.
9.Here, I think we diverge again. I feel that it is ok to flirt, but "capturing the prize" doesn't have to be your goal. A few of my really good friends I got to know really well through flirting. That's why we didn't ever go out, but still hang out together. However, if you're into flirting and 'bagging' as many girls as possible, I can see where you are coming from, and agree.
10. Practice makes perfect. Time heals all wounds (salt heals them faster). You will mess up. Don't do stupid S***. Don't do what I did, any of it.
11.And don't have inferiority complexes! Lots of valid points, being humble about is ok, but make it more of an implied humility, and not this self-derrogatory(sp?) crud!
<!--QuoteBegin--z.x. bogglestiensky+Jun 21 2003, 03:10 AM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (z.x. bogglestiensky @ Jun 21 2003, 03:10 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin--Salty+Jun 21 2003, 01:20 AM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Salty @ Jun 21 2003, 01:20 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> I believe relationships were money is exchanged are the greatest. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> particularly if more is exchanged in your direction than in hers
i dont actually have any girlfriends, just a few friends who are girls
i was too much of an annoying little twit when i was younger for any of the girls to even consider it now.
still, it was fun
i think i'll wait until university <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> I was actually talking about prostitution. <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo-->
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1) "lets just be friends" is just the other persons way of softening the blow; but that would imply that they actually care about you. If you were not friends before you went out, your not gonna be friends after. Move on.
2) Lets just be friends doesn't work even if you WERE friends; all it is is a false illusion created by the two of you to try and block out what has happened thusfar; it does not work. Both will be finding ways to be vengeful to each other, not because you want to or hate the other person, but because you still want to be involved with each other and doing something mean is a way of showing emotion. Why give a fake smile every day to the girl when you can psych out her new boyfriend instead? Sure she's angry after, but deep down, just keep telling yourself that she's really thanking you.
3) Never cheat. You don't want someone doing it to you, don't do it to other people. If you want to move on, break it off and move on.
4) If you like another person enough to cheat, but not enough to break it off with the person you had, then you don't like that new person enough.
5) people cheat because they think they can get away with having both girls. This rapidly gets expensive; get a second job before attempting. And don't attempt. If your a bastage that does it anyway, you deserve whats going to eventually come to you.
6) if you plan on cheating, make it known publically. Either the person your with will be into it, or disgusted and throw the nearest handy beverage in your face. Either way, it's weight off your chest; if she does not like it, you don't have to worry about cheating because it's over. If she does like it.... well your in like sin. 3! <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo-->
7) Sunscreen good.
8) I hope you get that reference.
9) If flirting is the game that you enjoy; and captureing your "prize" brings you no joy and awkward silences, maybe you should train yourself less in flirting and more in making a girl happy once you've got her. THATS the hard part gents.
10) It's alot harder to do all of this than it is to type all of this.
11) Don't listen to anything I say.
12) I don't know what I'm talking about either; but I did stay at a holiday inn last night.
13) I'm done, kthx.
I moved before bad things came to the relationship (arguments etc). It sucked that I moved, but at least all I can remember is the good times.
And then I come to visit.
Lovely- especially when she says "yeah we'll still go out, sounds good" and then when I get down there I visited her... and she told me about her new boyfriend. I think thats messed up; not that she got a new b/f, I don't blame her because I only get to visit every once in a while, but the fact that she didn't TELL me till I got down there sucked, because I kept saying no to girls who wanted to go out with me here because "I was still seeing my g/f where I used to live"
Long distance relationships = the lewz.
But it's ok. I've been in limbo since 2000 just sittin in my room and only going out for school...
I gave up a social life, but on the plus side I model pretty well now <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo-->
Just a joke, but let's see who gets it. <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
The sad thing is, I get it. <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo-->
my only "real" relationship (i guess i'll use the word "real" for now) was with a chick i'll call MG. reminds me of machineguns. anyway, we initially got on ok, but the relationship was kinda thin. more physically experimental. we're f*ckin 16, right? anyway, about a month in, things are getting really f*ckin thin, so i ask her
what are we doing?
and of course she has no real answer... and because we weren't really doing anything meaningful at all, we just split.
it's unfortunate that most of the girls my age (maybe just in my area, near SF) are superficial, and transparent, at the same time. no substance. they flirt and act like they need a "real" relationship with a "real" guy. well i've got substance, but apparently, it actually <i>DOESN'T</i> matter who they're going out with, because it doesn't mean <i>anything</i>.
it's a sad, sad story. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
You, sir, have hit the nail on the cranium. What's worse is that so many people consider having "relationships" to be a symbol of social status, despite the fact that most of the people with insane, "pimped-out" "relationships" are either ridiculously moronic or hopelessly depressed.
Oh, and the broken hand joke is great <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Ex-frickin-actly! Drawing your identity, defining who you are, through relationships is just setting yourself up for failure.
Pick something permanant as your reference point.
3) Never cheat. You don't want someone doing it to you, don't do it to other people. If you want to move on, break it off and move on.
7) Sunscreen good.
9) If flirting is the game that you enjoy; and captureing your "prize" brings you no joy and awkward silences, maybe you should train yourself less in flirting and more in making a girl happy once you've got her. THATS the hard part gents.
10) It's alot harder to do all of this than it is to type all of this.
11) Don't listen to anything I say. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Wow! Well you made a doozy of a post. Let's start with the points I want to comment more on.
2.I would like to disagree with that one. Time heals all wounds, and if you can't be friends with people you once dated, you dated for the wrong reasons. I'm 20 and have very neutral relationships with 3 of my ex-girlfriends. I think this comes more with time and age (read: maturity). Just be patient.
3. Can't argue with that. I am ashamed to admit that I cheated on someone, and even though I knew I had to break things off with her (which I did) it makes people with morals feel bad&dirty&awful. Don't do it, kthxbye.
7.I can't agree more with this one, either. Sunscreen will help prevent skin cancer, something that many of our generation seems to be oblivious to. Anybody heard those fun stories about Melonoma from your grandparents? And <b>they</b> didn't go to Tanning beds to get their skin cancer.
9.Here, I think we diverge again. I feel that it is ok to flirt, but "capturing the prize" doesn't have to be your goal. A few of my really good friends I got to know really well through flirting. That's why we didn't ever go out, but still hang out together. However, if you're into flirting and 'bagging' as many girls as possible, I can see where you are coming from, and agree.
10. Practice makes perfect. Time heals all wounds (salt heals them faster). You will mess up. Don't do stupid S***. Don't do what I did, any of it.
11.And don't have inferiority complexes! Lots of valid points, being humble about is ok, but make it more of an implied humility, and not this self-derrogatory(sp?) crud!
Hope this helps some of you guys.
particularly if more is exchanged in your direction than in hers
i dont actually have any girlfriends, just a few friends who are girls
i was too much of an annoying little twit when i was younger for any of the girls to even consider it now.
still, it was fun
i think i'll wait until university <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
I was actually talking about prostitution. <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo-->