How To Raise A Person's Self-esteem
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Join Date: 2003-11-17 Member: 23084Members
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<div class="IPBDescription">say, my girlfriend.</div> help me out...guys
i am gouging my hearts out
i love her so much, but she always think she's ugly and worthless.
i do compliment her about her looks, but it doesnt seem to be working.
she thinks she should just die.
i am gouging my hearts out
i love her so much, but she always think she's ugly and worthless.
i do compliment her about her looks, but it doesnt seem to be working.
she thinks she should just die.
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and comedy option stick it in her pooper.
But if its in highschool its mostly a normal thing, I think <!--emo&::nerdy::--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/nerd-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='nerd-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
i doubt showing her fat ppl would work...
and hand me a knife too.
i doubt showing her fat ppl would work...
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Tell her to make sure she does whatever she does in the bathtub or shower so people don't have to clean up after her.
If you can, you should probably find out why she feels that way. But don't ask directly, just find out what you can. Again this is not a short term thing, and may not be sucessful.
Remember that some people don't like to changed to the way someone else thinks they ought to be- they'll offended that you don't like them the way they are. Consider what how you would react if someone thought that you were too quiet, or too loud, or too happy or too sad, or something and kept trying to change you to conform to how they think you should be. It's kind of devaluating, and I don't think you'd like it. This may be the equivalent of what you're trying to do, but you're probably on the ok side if this is really extreme
This could also be a psychological disorder, or may be the roots in a major problem (but this is more likely to be on the "normal" side of personality traits). Before you consider doing anything drastic, you should probably talk to someone you can trust well (rather than a complete stranger like me).
well, ugliness is a relative thing, i think she's hot....but then how would i let her know that?
well, ugliness is a relative thing, i think she's hot....but then how would i let her know that? <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
2 roofies and a night of fun?
well, ugliness is a relative thing, i think she's hot....but then how would i let her know that? <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Tell her that. Be honest, and avoid sounding like you are trying to get something out of her. Also try being romantic - try putting a rose under her windshield wiper, if she has a car, etc.
tell her how much you love her. show her in some form or way by not only words but actions. if you haven't that is. tell her how she is the world to you, and that that is all which really matters no matter what. smile alot. cuddle with her. but if she isn't that type of girl, ask her straight up why she thinks that way. it may be that there is something about her body that she doesn't like as is with most girls. talking helps alot but not always. anyways, you are with her and she should realize that if she was ugly in the first place you would most likely not be going out with her. but be honest none-the-less. tell her that no matter what she is a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; and that she has the right to be here. some girls are not wishywashy and are extremely manipulative, so she may be infact giddying for more attention unless you know for sure she is the sensitive an romantic type. peace. peace.
Yeah, sometimes there isn't an underlying motive, and other times that reassurance is needed. Just because the reasoning is silly doesn't make the person feel better.
Personally, it's really been a bane to have tons of people saying "that's just because you're a teen" because then you start questioning everything you feel and you just go insane after awhile.
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But what if she is fat and a furry? <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
(comedy option)
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But what if she is fat and a furry? <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Then she becomes an internet super star.
Seriously though, tell her that. Me and my ex girlfriend did that almost daily. She'd stroke my hair and tell me that, it was one of the best feelings in the world. Try that.
What I can tell you, is that if it drops to cutter status, leave.
Really.
I made a mistake of sticking with someone suicidal. I helped them, over the course of two years... but managed to mess myself up a fair bit. When I needed their help they couldn't return the favor and left me for someone else who was "more together"
HAHAHAHAHA.
Irony is a ****.
I would hand her a gun with rubber bullets and let her shut herself dumb till she fell down and passed out.
Seriously, whats a good joke between friends
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For some reason this reminds me of the time i hit my friend over the head with a glass bottle of syrup. (It wasn't my fault I thought its was plastic! <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo--> )
p.s glass bottles hurt when some body hits you in the head with one
Maybe because some of us do have lives? <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Maybe because some of us do have lives? <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
One can only wish...
Please post a picture of her.
of course you have to keep trying or she'll start accusing you of not liking her <!--emo&???--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/confused-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='confused-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
of course you have to keep trying or she'll start accusing you of not liking her <!--emo&???--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/confused-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='confused-fix.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
agreed. My gf will always say "So YOU think. Your supposed to think that" all you can really do is say it and hope it sticks. Think about it the opposite way. If you don't believe something, having her say it over and over again, would it change your mind?
Alcohol, makes you forget about everything an enjoy every moment of it. Unless you are a crappy drunk.
Even better if you are over 21 go to a comedy club get liquered up and laugh your **** off till you cry. Fun stuff!
And it’s the little things – saying ‘thank-you’ when she does something for you – even if she does it every day and it’s just your routine. A heart felt thanks can go a long way and make an otherwise boring or icky ‘chore’ worth it.
Final thought, not for you, but for some of these other replies. Stop being shallow. Regardless of whether she’s super-model material or the ugliest, fattest girl ever – self esteem and image are important things. And as they say ‘love is blind’. Don’t go off saying or thinking “well that girl IS ugly, she deserves to have crappy self-esteem, why doesn’t she make herself pretty?” That is such a terrible way to think and treat people.
Also be wary of people sucking compliments out of you because it may affect your feelings toward them.