Polyamorous Relationships
UZi
Eight inches of C4 between the legs. Join Date: 2003-02-20 Member: 13767Members
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<div class="IPBDescription">Can you love more then one?</div> Currently I am seeing a woman who is already married to her husband. Her husband likes me. They even want me to move in with them in Idaho.
The question I put up to discussion is can 1 person love more then one person at a time? Why is it that it's generally seen as a taboo in our society?
The question I put up to discussion is can 1 person love more then one person at a time? Why is it that it's generally seen as a taboo in our society?
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I think the only concern would be that one (or more) people in the relationship start to feel jealousy or a threat to their position in the relationship, which seems to be what usually happens. I really don't know if moving in with them would be such a good idea.
I don't know about the taboo - maybe it was to keep bloodlines organized, or maintain property rights, or whatever.
I've also found it is a source of less strife and jealousy if the two partners are of different genders, but that doesn't work for everyone.
I can't comment on whether the woman can truly love two people at the same time or not. Maybe she can. But I have serious doubts about whether the husband will be happy "sharing" his wife long-term. As AllUrHive mentioned, there are now twice as many people to get mad at you. It just doesn't seem like a real wise plan to move in with them.
Why is it a taboo? Because today's close-minded society is obsessed about "the norm", and anything different is "wrong".
That said, polyamorous relationships are rare, and even rarer are stable ones. Stable ones DO exist though
I think that you can love more than one person at a time. I can say that I've been in that situation, but nothing was ever persued. It tends to be a little more complicated, but it can work.
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I think that you can love more than one person at a time. I can say that I've been in that situation, but nothing was ever persued. It tends to be a little more complicated, but it can work.
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hahaha ok. <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
I think the question is more "how did this taboo arise?" as opposed to "what defines it as a taboo."
I would assume the taboo rose to enforce some rule, like the old taboos in which you could not interact with a village chief in certain ways, or the taboos against incest - but not all of them made a whole lot of sense.
I was going to say, maybe it came from older taboo, but then again there were a lot of cultures in which men had multiple wives (just not the other way around). But concubines and secondary wives and so forth aside, wasn't it generally the norm (once "civilized" society arose) for there to be an established one male, one female couple?
(hopefully this doesn't count as derailing >.>)
The question I put up to discussion is can 1 person love more then one person at a time? Why is it that it's generally seen as a taboo in our society? <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
One person can certainly love multiple people at the same time. After all, the mechanisms by which one falls in love in the first place do not suddenly cease to exist when one enters a relationship with a partner, not so ?
The real question I think is how _practical_ it is to pursue a relationship with more than one person at the same time. My personal opinion is that it can work, but very rarely.
As for the taboo factor: In our particular society I believe it is seen as an issue of "value". The idea being that you don't value someone if you don't commit to them exclusively.
Yes it's entirely possible, and it's frowned upon by society because of moral issues.
Wouldn't move in with them though ...
Feelings of love are a chemical reaction in the brain, right? Theoretically, if you feel the same sense of security and trust with two different people, that same chemical reaction could fire twice and make you feel in love with both of them.
In fact, if you ask me, it seems a little more logical to have multiple partners than just one. That way, if one dies, you still have security with other people. Sounds a little crude, but it's a good way to ensure survival in the wild.