Getting over you x!
Hell_Dragon
Join Date: 2007-10-18 Member: 62672Members
Join Date: 2007-10-18 Member: 62672Members
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<div class="IPBDescription">Any suggestions?</div>Hello, my x dumped me about 3 or 4 months ago, and i have finally realized i need some god damm help. Nowhere were i look, i find something reminding me of her. Same day she dumped me, she had already found another guy, so that just made everything worse when i found out 3 weeks later...
So comrades.. help a fallen marine, to get back on his feet?
any suggestions how to get over x girl/boyfriends?
(we were together 2 years and 3 months :/)
Keep it to a certain degree of seriousness please. <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/marine.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid="::marine::" border="0" alt="marine.gif" />
So comrades.. help a fallen marine, to get back on his feet?
any suggestions how to get over x girl/boyfriends?
(we were together 2 years and 3 months :/)
Keep it to a certain degree of seriousness please. <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/marine.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid="::marine::" border="0" alt="marine.gif" />
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You are gona be lucky if this just sinks.
On the serious note:
Love sucks.
It is gona hurt for a long time.
Eventually you will get over it.
How you do so is completely dependent on who you are.
I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years. Things ended rather sucky. I moped about it for a year or so, and almost lapsed back into depression, but decided not to, looked at what went wrong in the relationship and worked on fixing those aspects of my personality that were at fault.
It has been (calculates) about 4 years now.
I have been in a relationship with another girl for nearly 2 years now. I love her, and care for her dearly, but I still miss the other girl at times.
Then again, my Ex is still one of my best friends, and I still love (remember, different definitions of love here) her, And her current boyfriend is awesome, and the 4 of us hang out when we can.
Now, for most people this would be seen as a ######ed up situation. But hey, it works for me. I am not depressed any more, I enjoy life (for the most part), I love my SO, and I have a great friend that I have gone through hell with.
Yah, coming here is not a good idea for advice <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile-fix.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":)" border="0" alt="smile-fix.gif" />
IBT:
Booze and/or drugs
Find a cheap ho
Grow a pair and stop complaining
Enjoy.
(seriously, coming to OT for this? Might as well just post it on /b/)
Well maybe i should have posted it in NS2 General discussion then? <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tounge.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":p" border="0" alt="tounge.gif" />
but thx, actually made me somewhat happy just to read your answers.
Well maybe i should have posted it in NS2 General discussion then? <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tounge.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":p" border="0" alt="tounge.gif" />
but thx, actually made me somewhat happy just to read your answers.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
No, you should talk about it in a community less likely to flame you.
Gender-neutral-significant-interactive-partners are so much better eh Sonic? Eh? Eh? <img src="http://img90.imageshack.us/img90/8914/naughtymd3.gif" border="0" class="linked-image" />
On a more serious note, do what Thansal said. The most important thing you can gain out of this is self-development. My recommendation is to figure out the best way you can put yourself in a position to think long and rationally about yourself, the relationship, the person you had the relationship with, etc etc.
Basically just meditate on it and try to improve yourself?
I appreciate Thansal's worldview more then most, apparently now. I recommend his rational approach to relationships (and possibly other things) and I urge you to follow his example as best suits you.
Rediscover your friends, and have a good time with them. Go camping. That's <a href="http://moultano.blogspot.com/2007/07/he-maketh-me-lie-down-in-green-pastures.html" target="_blank">what I do</a> to get over somebody. <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile-fix.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":)" border="0" alt="smile-fix.gif" />
Expand your circle of friends, preferably in a way that includes women. It helps just to have attractive women around to talk to, even if you don't have any intention of dating them.
My advice to you would be to hang with friends, get really drunk and mess around with random girls while constantly lying to yourself how awesome being single is, and how boring life would be with your x. After some time, you MIGHT start to believe your own lies and eventually get over her. However you will never forget her because of the long time you two were together.
Btw, that she found a new guy instantly after the breakup sucks and i know how bad that feels, however you can turn that badness into hate. Hate diminishes faster than sadness and guilt. You are a MAN after all. Walk it off...
My advice to you would be to hang with friends, get really drunk and mess around with random girls while constantly lying to yourself how awesome being single is, and how boring life would be with your x. After some time, you MIGHT start to believe your own lies and eventually get over her. However you will never forget her because of the long time you two were together.
Btw, that she found a new guy instantly after the breakup sucks and i know how bad that feels, however you can turn that badness into hate. Hate diminishes faster than sadness and guilt. You are a MAN after all. Walk it off...<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
And bloo hits ALL of my predictions in ONE go!
Damn am I good.
*sigh*
Yes, all those things will probably work. But I honestly don't think they are the healthiest options.
Especially Hate.
Hate Leads to Suffering.
I know it sounds stupidly hippy, but works for me is to hate no one, and love the ones you can. Hate DOES lead to suffering. Remember the good things, learn from the bad, and don't dwell on the past any more then you have to.
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Good luck mate.
My advice really is to stay busy. Do things you want to do with friends. Go out. The last thing you want to do is sit around feeling sorry for your self and getting angry a person you cared about.
You would be amazed what a game of guys vs girls full contact pool basketball will do to erase an ex.
Seriously for a while just be out to have fun, and remember what having fun with a bunch of your friends is like then later you can find some other cute girl and date her for a while but for now just try to have a good time and forget the fact that some girl has ripped your heart into tiny pieces.
I'm quite surprised to find no flaming, and seriously... Thanks for all the great advices. It's really nice to read this, and i can't help smiling of all the good suggestions, and how good they sound. Think you guys are right about primary 2 things:
1. Be more together with our friends, to forget her, or at least not think of her.
2. find another chick, and get cloaking and silence (though I'm normally against CO, bur this is the IRL, right?) and get in position to ambush her <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin-fix.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":D" border="0" alt="biggrin-fix.gif" />
"Marine respawned."
Thank you guys
**salute**
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TC's troll alert hasn't gone off yet since I haven't posted... he'll be here shortly. <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink-fix.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=";)" border="0" alt="wink-fix.gif" />
Follow Sonic's advice and get a boyfriend next time.
<!--quoteo(post=1657694:date=Oct 25 2007, 01:07 PM:name=Thansal)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Thansal @ Oct 25 2007, 01:07 PM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1657694"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->Especially Hate.
Hate Leads to Suffering.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Wow, that didn't lure him?
Suffering leads to the Dark Side.
On a more serious note try and keep busy and find someone new. After breaking up with my GF of 3 years that's what helped me. Although we're back together now, if I hadn't gone to date new people and reevaluated my attitude towards relationships we probably wouldn't be. Although my experience is probably closer to Thansal's than yours, I think the advice is sound.
^ ^ ^
There's nothing more therapeutic than hot chicks.
Otherwise, stay <i>real</i> busy. Load yourself up at school, exercise regularly, work overtime.
What I <i>DO</i> know, is that if you have any form of relationship problems, your first step is to post about it in the appropriate section of your favorite forum(s)
There's nothing more therapeutic than hot chicks.
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That's not entirely true, hot chick that is into you, and is also a gamer seems to work better then just hot chicks <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tounge.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":p" border="0" alt="tounge.gif" /> atleast on regular nerds.
When you do get a talking to her dont talk about your X, and put some time in to thinking about what your going to say about your X when she asks you after a few dates, you want to try and avoid out right negativity and or hatred, put some iceing on it but make sure you do give the truth, and if the truth means tarnishing your self, remeber you wouldn't be talking to this new girl if you didnt do some self reflection and or do your best to correct your gyros in some way. If she does ask you about your X on the first or second encounter, then shes sus-ing you out is suspicious, has heard from a friend, or your just acting too nice. Be passionate and primal. At the core of it, we are all animal's and we cant shake our need/wants that are geneticly imbeded in our DNA.
OH AND WIMEN SMELL FEAR, so bath and dioderise.
So comrades.. help a fallen marine, to get back on his feet?
any suggestions how to get over x girl/boyfriends?
(we were together 2 years and 3 months :/)
Keep it to a certain degree of seriousness please. <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/marine.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid="::marine::" border="0" alt="marine.gif" /><!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
14Months on from my the last girl I was steady with and I wasn't with her as long as you were with your ex, only 18 months. But it still ticks me off that she went for someone else the same day later and obvious had plans in motion etc.
Best thing I ever did was work out. Takes your mind off everything.
Love?
Vested Emotional Attachment?
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meh, might as well:
<a href="http://xkcd.com/334/" target="_blank"><img src="http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/wasteland.png" border="0" class="linked-image" /></a>
Ow, Seriously, just Ow.
For those of you NOT familiar with XKCD, Shame on you.
(oh, and read the mouse over tool tip for the image)