Am I Just Different?
Quaunaut
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Basically, my problem is, is that I'm a guy. I'm what many of my friends call "The Dying Breed"- aka, a guy that doesn't care about a girl's looks, her money, or anything like that, but just her personality, and us as a whole. I would rather talk with a girl than have sex(even if we were married, in which I strongly believe you should be before you get married) with her. In fact, I don't want to have much sex at all, I just want to spend time with a girl, have fun with her, be there for her, help her, and try and make her feel good, and whatever requires that.
So many of my girl friends(notice the seperation) say that they wish their boyfriends were like me, or that there were more guys like me. Yet...I haven't had a girlfriend in 2 years.
Now, I'm a bigtime Christian. I've prayed to have a good, christian girl come along just to help me comfort her, and myself, so that we can just try surviving our teen years together, and to spend a lot of time with, getting to know her, doing things with her, not doing her.
And...I don't know...I just feel so alone...I mean, I'm one of the few guys thats into romance stuff. Action movies? Video Games? Espionage? Paintball? I'd rather read a romance book. Anyday. Or a shoujo(girl's anime). No other guy I know is like this, so I have no one to vent to.
I...I just am starting to feel like maybe I'm not meant to date, just help other's in their forays, which is what I tend to do. I may not have much experience in dating, but so far, my advice has never failed. So many girls think I'm great, and said "If I wasn't afraid of losing our friendship, I'd date you", that I don't know if this is a blessing or a curse.
I'm one of those rare guys, and I swear, it feels like it. I'm starting to think that maybe I SHOULD try and be a sexist pig that just wants a girl for her ****, because those are the guys getting girls right now.
I don't know...sorry for my pity party... <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif'><!--endemo-->
Basically, my problem is, is that I'm a guy. I'm what many of my friends call "The Dying Breed"- aka, a guy that doesn't care about a girl's looks, her money, or anything like that, but just her personality, and us as a whole. I would rather talk with a girl than have sex(even if we were married, in which I strongly believe you should be before you get married) with her. In fact, I don't want to have much sex at all, I just want to spend time with a girl, have fun with her, be there for her, help her, and try and make her feel good, and whatever requires that.
So many of my girl friends(notice the seperation) say that they wish their boyfriends were like me, or that there were more guys like me. Yet...I haven't had a girlfriend in 2 years.
Now, I'm a bigtime Christian. I've prayed to have a good, christian girl come along just to help me comfort her, and myself, so that we can just try surviving our teen years together, and to spend a lot of time with, getting to know her, doing things with her, not doing her.
And...I don't know...I just feel so alone...I mean, I'm one of the few guys thats into romance stuff. Action movies? Video Games? Espionage? Paintball? I'd rather read a romance book. Anyday. Or a shoujo(girl's anime). No other guy I know is like this, so I have no one to vent to.
I...I just am starting to feel like maybe I'm not meant to date, just help other's in their forays, which is what I tend to do. I may not have much experience in dating, but so far, my advice has never failed. So many girls think I'm great, and said "If I wasn't afraid of losing our friendship, I'd date you", that I don't know if this is a blessing or a curse.
I'm one of those rare guys, and I swear, it feels like it. I'm starting to think that maybe I SHOULD try and be a sexist pig that just wants a girl for her ****, because those are the guys getting girls right now.
I don't know...sorry for my pity party... <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif'><!--endemo-->
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from here it looks like things are gonna come to you. that's all i can really say, looking at what you've told us.
edit: i used to think like you in terms of the "maybe i should just - ". that happened this summer. and then i realized i was 16.
you're 15, it appears. people can go their whole lives without finding the one... you wouldn't be alone. i wouldn't be alone. but you keep trying. maybe you make sacrifices for the relationship, or maybe you just wait for the perfect fit.
Don't fret about being the nice guy. When your 15 you think the world ends in a few days. Wait. When you go to college life changes so completely because the people don't know you and what's more, girls actually like the nice guys. Look at me, the social recluse who sits in his room playing PC games and ya know what? I've already found a girl who likes me for me, not because of what I offer.
If life gets you down because girls don't want to be with you, remember Nemesis Zero's sig - The best thing about life - It's temporary
This too shall pass.
avoid them for a few years and in your 20s you'll probably meet a semi-decent one.
Lies, dirty commie lies. Things don't just magically happen. Things don't magically just get better. You have to take initiative and make things better yourself.
Qua. please don't turn into a jerk because you think girls will want to date you then. I promise, someone will come along, just hang in there, you're still young. Many girls are looking for guys like you. You just need to find them, and get them to like you as more then just a friend, I have difficulties in that department myself, so don't ask me how. Good luck.
And yet...I went to college. Who did I start dating? A girl I had known since third grade <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif'><!--endemo--> And we'll be married come June. Why would you want to date someone you didn't know, anyway? (er, besides for sex...I'm not that way)
Quanaut, just hang in there. Someone will come along for you.
*it's 1:30am w/ no sugar, sorry if I act weird*
*it's 1:30am w/ no sugar, sorry if I act weird*
Lol you shouldn't be worrying about this stuff, your still a kid....yet, so am I. We still have a whole life to live and girls should be the least important thing in your life at the moment...The worst thing that you could do is change who you are for someone...You should always be yourself.
Hope that helps.....yeah...
I don't suppose you read <a href='http://www.megatokyo.com/index.php?strip_id=43' target='_blank'>Megatokyo</a>? You sound almost exactly like Piro <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif'><!--endemo-->
I wasn't whining about anything...Maybe you didn't notice the <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif'><!--endemo--> smile in there...By what I wrote, I meant it as a joke.....
Jeez...
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Don't flame if you can't take a joke....(Jane)
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first, you want a nice girl, :BEEEEEEEP: they dont exist, sorry. they are all materialistic
second, most girls will tell you they "want" a nice guy, that is utter and complete BS and if you ever think that is what they really mean, i will slap you with a large trout
girls want the bad boy they can mold into a nice guy
girls say they want to cuddle and be all sweet and romantic, this is also BS
girls really want drama,
girls like boyfriends, only becuase of social status
why do you think all the rich kids with no personality have hot chicks?
why do you think all the old people with porshe and bmws have hot chicks?
why do you think jocks have all the hot chicks?
in other words, i have been rejected so much that i have become bitter and alone... oh well, at least i dont have a girlfriend who wants to spend my money on her stuff and interupt my NS games so she can talk about how her firend got into a fight with another firend about who has the right color makeup and other bs like that
yeah, i am lonely, and drunk to...
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Don't flame if you can't take a joke....(Jane) <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Seen it before. The better conclusion is "girls = all evil".
Further proof, by me, is that:
*Money makes the world go 'round
*Money is the root of all evil
*The root of all evil makes the world go 'round
*Girls = all evil (as we have already proved).
Therefore:
rooting girls makes the world go 'round <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo-->
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Don't flame if you can't take a joke....(Jane) <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Seen it before. The better conclusion is "girls = all evil".
Further proof, by me, is that:
*Money makes the world go 'round
*Money is the root of all evil
*The root of all evil makes the world go 'round
*Girls = all evil (as we have already proved).
Therefore:
rooting girls makes the world go 'round <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
LOL!!!
LOLOLOL!!!!!
w7fh4X!!! hahhaha rooting XD
man. i love that term.
Thing is, I have a gf.
The absolutely most wonderful thing I can do with her is talk with her for long hours. Before we even called ourselves a couple, we'd talk for 8 hours straight.
All the time, when she is down about something, I am the first one she turns to for comfort. And I haven't failed in doing so yet. She wishes that she could talk to me the way I talk to her.
And another thing, I have to admit that my gf is one who many guys would make cat calls to. She doesn't wear make-up either. Thing is, I didn't go for her because of her looks. I just happened to enjoy her company as she loves to talk about everything. She even likes reading manga (we've read a few together at Barnes & Noble the other day).
I believed I didn't have even half a chance with her so all I did was talk to her every so often for company. Why didn't I believe so? Because she's 2 inches taller than I am and she can even pick me up =D.
We haven't done anything extreme yet and I don't really care. She thinks I'm the type of guy everyone should go after. She's a great girl...and I love her ^o^.
[EDIT]Oh...and one last thing. She knows about the whole thing about me being a hentai god before on IRC (350+ h-movies before!) and being on the computer for 36 hours a day since 1989 (I was born 1985), but she dun care =}.[/EDIT]
Seriously any "relationships" your friends are having are nothing more than teenage flights of fancy and will 99% of the time amount to nothing, you'll probably still feel crappy about it but thats good 'ol hormonal imbalance for you. And trust me women are much less hassle as friends rather than lovers <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo-->
i mean i come off to my friends a cocky **** (well i am <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo--> )
but when im with girls i am totally different.. like they all sit there and joke aboug 'doin em' i really dont.... i cant agree with you on all points.. cos i would much rather be shooting stuff up or watching an action movie then reading.. but thats me...
but yeah... im not a dying breed i guess... but yeah i appear like i wouldnt give a f**k but when it comes down to it i will do whatever it takes to make the girl happy... no matter what.. so thats something
dont worry man.. it's life.. it sucks.. but muh what can you do?
Seriously any "relationships" your friends are having are nothing more than teenage flights of fancy and will 99% of the time amount to nothing, you'll probably still feel crappy about it but thats good 'ol hormonal imbalance for you. And trust me women are much less hassle as friends rather than lovers <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Touche' that works well the other way too. <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo--> Then when/ if you finally meet someone you get a new set of questions. Are you sure (s)he is the right one for you, do you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. . . blah, blah, blah, <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo--> just hang in there kiddo.
Aaron you aren't helping....excuse him,he's a bit 'new' to the forums <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif'><!--endemo-->(don't reply,use PMs if you want to argue,Aaron)
I'm like him and Keitaro except I'm not christian...I'm a catholic :\
But then again,we both could pretty much be branded the Dying Breed,except I'm different because girls run away from me because I am teh ugleh or something ><
But Necrotic gave some good advice,try not to worry about it now,you have to realy start worrying about stuff once you're an adult,it becomes very hard since well....you're done with school :\
all he wants is attention, and you saps are giving it to him.
gj.