<!--QuoteBegin-Obst & Gemuese+Apr 27 2004, 01:14 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Obst & Gemuese @ Apr 27 2004, 01:14 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Different people react different to the same situation. Your posts ("drama", "just a...") don't show that you respect that he is another human being, not a copy of yourself. He comes here to ask for advice, not to be gunned down by "Your problems are unimportant" posts like yours. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> That wasn't my at all... you missed it entirely. I was giving him advice that he shouldn't take this <b>so</b> seriously, as it is nowhere near the worst experience he will face in his life. I was giving him some <b>friendly</b> (not coldhearted as you assumed) advice that he should put things into perspective. Will his life end if he doesn't get this girl? No. Will his life somehow change for the better with this girl? That's rare... it's a highschool infatuation - these things don't last. I'm not saying drop it entirely, but rather "get it over with", since it really isn't something to fret over.
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more.
<i>[Homer] Now what you gotta do If you wanna get a kiss Is act real smooth And make your move like this <Yawns and puts arm around Grampa> [Grampa] Oh, I see. So if I take your advice And make your patented move Then my chances for love Will slightly improve <Grampa practices> [Homer] Hee, hee, hee Now what's that rule? [Grampa] Play it cool!</i>
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Don't worry about it man. You told her, right? She'll forget about that other guy in due time, and she'll see that you've always been there for her. I don't know how it works, but it does. Just hang in there.
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> Don't worry about it man. You told her, right? She'll forget about that other guy in due time, and she'll see that you've always been there for her. I don't know how it works, but it does. Just hang in there. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Yeah, the Karma Police always catch up in the end <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> Don't worry about it man. You told her, right? She'll forget about that other guy in due time, and she'll see that you've always been there for her. I don't know how it works, but it does. Just hang in there. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> Yeah, the Karma Police always catch up in the end <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> A) I don't believe in Karma. If it does exist, however, I am so due for a big pay-off from the universe...
B) I kind of doubt she'll forget about him. Its a rather complicated (if not to say unhealth) thing between them.
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> Don't worry about it man. You told her, right? She'll forget about that other guy in due time, and she'll see that you've always been there for her. I don't know how it works, but it does. Just hang in there. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> Yeah, the Karma Police always catch up in the end <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> A) I don't believe in Karma. If it does exist, however, I am so due for a big pay-off from the universe...
B) I kind of doubt she'll forget about him. Its a rather complicated (if not to say unhealth) thing between them. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> It could have ended much better and it could have ended much worse (although, improbably so). I applaud you for your courage with dealing with people you like, despite slight rejection that (hopefully) wont damage your relationship with the girl.
You still might get lucky (depending on what year of high school this actually is) and she might change her mind in a year or two. Of course, you might find some drastic flaws with her that you didn't notice before or you might just find someone you like better.
Well if its really that unhealthy she needs you more as a friend than as anything else. Just be there for her if she needs you and in the mean time get out there and meet more girls <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo--> It honestly is the best way to distract yourself (not only cos it's fun).
That doesn't mean use them while your still hung up on this other girl btw, no girl likes to be second best. I mean just get out there, meet more people and theres a good chance you'll find someone else you'll spark with.
Just think, a vast proportion of the world believes in horoscopes and stuff, if they are even slightly right that means that there are only 12 types of people in the whole world! That means your guarenteed to find someone else you click with. <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /><!--endemo-->
ps, well done for not telling her details, big difference between explaining your personal problems and explaining someone else's.
pps, you did actually tell her right? If not but you're sure you're gonna be rejected just tone down what you tell her, had a crush on her for awhile but glad your friends, had a few dreams about which made you think about her as possible relationship material and you were thinking about telling her just cos some of the dreams were funny (and some were not, see if you can make her blush without giving any details, it'd be amusing <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /><!--endemo-->).
<!--QuoteBegin-Necrotic+Apr 27 2004, 06:00 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Necrotic @ Apr 27 2004, 06:00 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Note - I've been single for nearly three years now, pay no attention to anything written above. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Roflcopter.
The best advice I can give: Be honest. Say what you're thinking and don't stuff around.
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That wasn't my at all... you missed it entirely. I was giving him advice that he shouldn't take this <b>so</b> seriously, as it is nowhere near the worst experience he will face in his life. I was giving him some <b>friendly</b> (not coldhearted as you assumed) advice that he should put things into perspective. Will his life end if he doesn't get this girl? No. Will his life somehow change for the better with this girl? That's rare... it's a highschool infatuation - these things don't last. I'm not saying drop it entirely, but rather "get it over with", since it really isn't something to fret over.
Once you get past your teen years, you'll see things differently, trust me.
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more.
<i>[Homer] Now what you gotta do
If you wanna get a kiss
Is act real smooth
And make your move like this
<Yawns and puts arm around Grampa>
[Grampa] Oh, I see. So if I take your advice
And make your patented move
Then my chances for love
Will slightly improve
<Grampa practices>
[Homer] Hee, hee, hee
Now what's that rule?
[Grampa] Play it cool!</i>
And there it is people...How to get women.
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Don't worry about it man. You told her, right? She'll forget about that other guy in due time, and she'll see that you've always been there for her. I don't know how it works, but it does. Just hang in there.
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Don't worry about it man. You told her, right? She'll forget about that other guy in due time, and she'll see that you've always been there for her. I don't know how it works, but it does. Just hang in there. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Yeah, the Karma Police always catch up in the end <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Don't worry about it man. You told her, right? She'll forget about that other guy in due time, and she'll see that you've always been there for her. I don't know how it works, but it does. Just hang in there. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Yeah, the Karma Police always catch up in the end <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
A) I don't believe in Karma. If it does exist, however, I am so due for a big pay-off from the universe...
B) I kind of doubt she'll forget about him. Its a rather complicated (if not to say unhealth) thing between them.
Well, she's still hung up on someone else, and the conflicts of THAT relationship is a story in of itself. I don't really want to go into detail, but ultimately I have another friend and nothing more. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Don't worry about it man. You told her, right? She'll forget about that other guy in due time, and she'll see that you've always been there for her. I don't know how it works, but it does. Just hang in there. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Yeah, the Karma Police always catch up in the end <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
A) I don't believe in Karma. If it does exist, however, I am so due for a big pay-off from the universe...
B) I kind of doubt she'll forget about him. Its a rather complicated (if not to say unhealth) thing between them. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
It could have ended much better and it could have ended much worse (although, improbably so). I applaud you for your courage with dealing with people you like, despite slight rejection that (hopefully) wont damage your relationship with the girl.
You still might get lucky (depending on what year of high school this actually is) and she might change her mind in a year or two. Of course, you might find some drastic flaws with her that you didn't notice before or you might just find someone you like better.
...I wish that would happen to me.
That doesn't mean use them while your still hung up on this other girl btw, no girl likes to be second best. I mean just get out there, meet more people and theres a good chance you'll find someone else you'll spark with.
Just think, a vast proportion of the world believes in horoscopes and stuff, if they are even slightly right that means that there are only 12 types of people in the whole world! That means your guarenteed to find someone else you click with. <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /><!--endemo-->
ps, well done for not telling her details, big difference between explaining your personal problems and explaining someone else's.
pps, you did actually tell her right? If not but you're sure you're gonna be rejected just tone down what you tell her, had a crush on her for awhile but glad your friends, had a few dreams about which made you think about her as possible relationship material and you were thinking about telling her just cos some of the dreams were funny (and some were not, see if you can make her blush without giving any details, it'd be amusing <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /><!--endemo-->).
Anyway, have fun.
CMEast aka the <i>Lurve</i> Doctor
Roflcopter.
The best advice I can give: Be honest. Say what you're thinking and don't stuff around.
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