I'm In A Rut
I feel bad.
Normally, I strut through my days in complete denial of my many faults, while stubbornly clinging to the belief of my ultimate superiority to everyone else. I know this is not true, but when I walk around my school campus, watching as a bunch of overweight, overmakeupped blonde chicks duke it out over their boyfriends, it makes me feel superior, like I'm "better then them."
I came to a realization today that made me realize just how wrong I was. I might be smarter, harder working, or know more about why Bush is a terrible president more then most of them, but I'm still lacking in one vital thing.
A friend.
While I occassionally spend time "hanging out" with people, I've realized that I've never considered these people friends. On AIM, I'm actually not at all interested in any conversations I have, and the fact that I've been spending less and less time with people online sort of reflects this. I don't know why I'm feeling like this today, it's probably because I've been reading Love Hina again. Man, Love Hina gets to me >_<.
In short, my angst meter is full up today, and I need to vent. Fin.
Oh and ya, don't bother pointing out that this is an obvious cry for sympathy. What else could it be?
Normally, I strut through my days in complete denial of my many faults, while stubbornly clinging to the belief of my ultimate superiority to everyone else. I know this is not true, but when I walk around my school campus, watching as a bunch of overweight, overmakeupped blonde chicks duke it out over their boyfriends, it makes me feel superior, like I'm "better then them."
I came to a realization today that made me realize just how wrong I was. I might be smarter, harder working, or know more about why Bush is a terrible president more then most of them, but I'm still lacking in one vital thing.
A friend.
While I occassionally spend time "hanging out" with people, I've realized that I've never considered these people friends. On AIM, I'm actually not at all interested in any conversations I have, and the fact that I've been spending less and less time with people online sort of reflects this. I don't know why I'm feeling like this today, it's probably because I've been reading Love Hina again. Man, Love Hina gets to me >_<.
In short, my angst meter is full up today, and I need to vent. Fin.
Oh and ya, don't bother pointing out that this is an obvious cry for sympathy. What else could it be?
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Do things that make you happy and such. Sometimes i feel like you now, well it goes away.
if you need a friend just find some random person on the boards and start messeging them alot of people have done it to me <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
anyway, it's hard to make friends if you are arrogant. dunno if you act like that, but since you feel it, it's pretty likely.
anyway, it's hard to make friends if you are arrogant. dunno if you act like that, but since you feel it, it's pretty likely. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
OLOLOLOLOL didnt know there is a member called Wheee... Sweet irony <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
It has nothing to do with you.
I don't act stuck up or arrogant in class, although I tend to make early assumptions about people. I've been feeling especially crappy with this new school... there's no one I would classify as my type and I've pretty much just sat around talking to the wall all day long. The plus side to it is that my grades have been +++ recently...
[edit]#1 important thing, different personality types are ok between friends, but don't try to make freinds with people who have absoulty no common hobbies with you.
<span style='font-size:7pt;line-height:100%'>because if it doesn't I'll feel crappy for giving you bad advice ;(</span>
A friend is someone who actually knows you. Someone who could cut you down in a heartbeat... and doesn't, because he/she is your friend.
Friendships are about trust. They don't form quickly or simply, especially later in life. Don't expect an instant fix, and don't give up just because something doesn't seem to be working yet.
Try something completely new to you, one of the activities offered by or near your school. One activity that helped me make connections and form new friendships in college was swing dancing. Frankly, I recommend it to just about anyone because (1) it's fun, (2) it's good exercise, (3) it's a social event by necessity (you have to dance *with* someone), and (4) the vast majority of swing dancers I know/have met are *extremely* nice, especially to newcomers. It's also a widely disparate group brought together by one thing that they all have in common: dancing. It's variety.
Now i'm stuck at home and work while being anti-social. <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/sad-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
The weird thing is, I'm never sure if this affects me or not. I don't feel any major loss, but I'm sure I'd prefer having friends (not just amiable acquaintances) I could talk to face-to-face rather than over the internet.
Edit: and Love Hina rocks. Great series <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
...brother?
This is what we call "not helpful."
no more no less... if you are going to walk around thinking your superior dont be shocked when you are billy no mates ya know?
heres a good tip remember no matter what you do no matter who you are, if you are good at a certain something like say shooting. there will always be somebody out there who could whip your **** at it. never believe you are the best..
but always strive to hit that target. as its an impossible target you will keep aiming higher and higher...
Now that would be superior...
I'm not a people person but I can walk up to any girl and start up a conversation, (or boy) and the secret is this:
Just let go. Let go of any fear you may have. Find a potentially interesting subject, and talk for the hell of it. The most recent example I have of this was two days ago, where I knocked on a random girl's dorm room and held a 5 min coversation. The reason I talked with her was because my friends dared me too, and being the confidant P.O.S. that I am, I did it without any fear of what may happen.
If you wanna make friends, you gotta talk. Just a few times a day. Everyone is different, some people require less social interaction to be satisfied. Some people need social interaction every hour, others need it a few times a week. And, as you get older you will change your social preferences frequently. If you can't adapt to these changes you will go postal.
So instead of just walking around minding your own buisness, if you find yourself walking down a hallway next to some random dude, ask him why your teacher is such a *****, or why "...", or just something. It could be as simple as one sentence and he does is nod, but who cares.
What I have noticed in my short 18 years is that people who avoid talking with others is being immature.
The weird thing is, I'm never sure if this affects me or not. I don't feel any major loss, but I'm sure I'd prefer having friends (not just amiable acquaintances) I could talk to face-to-face rather than over the internet. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
The superiority complex is pretty much a generic human trait. Pretty much all succsessful humans belive themselfs to be, at very least, superior to the people around them. It goes so far that many people construct thier worldviews around it, valuing greatness in thier hobbies and skills above all other pursuits in humanity.
I'm no psychologist, but I would theorize, from my best observations, that any person that doesn't have some manifested version of a superiority complex is mentally unbalanced, and probably suffering from at least intermediate depression.
you know supposedly gamers are actually a highly sociable type of person... some of them just don't know how to interact =3
I'm kinda weird with friends; I'll always be there through thick or thin for you when I'm around but if I'm not you'll probably have trouble getting much of a chat out of me, let alone much else. I tend to cut ties a bit too easily but I'm fiercely loyal to friends who I have around me at any one time.
Go figure huh? ^^
I'm generally chatty and outgoing unless I'm feeling moody which isn't often so catching acquaintances isn't a problem. Friends are just something that come with time as long as you bother to make with the niceness =D
If some stranger suddenly starts chatterng away to you while you're waiting at a bustop with them it's probably me <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Supposedly I'm a good listener though so I'm not like those people swift described =P
[edit] Just because a person is a compusive extrovert, doesn't make them a poor listener, it ussually just means they are practically incapable of holding deeper relationships. Interaction with people for them is pretty much how much fun you can have together and what kind of crap you can get into together. They don't run very deeply into other people's lives, at least not very often... Awesome people to hang out with at a party, or a trip to the mall though <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Introverts get tired when they have to juggle relationships, but thier social requirements are the same, so consequently they keep a few close relationships which they ussually take a long long time to develop. But once its there, its like coil said, the person could easily cut you down, but they don't because they are a real friend.
[edit2] Sorry gem, that didn't sound right, I'm not trying to pin down your personality type, its just a subject that interests me, so when you leave an opening I jump it <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/sad-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
But that really isn't the big reason why I'm having trouble at this place. The <i>biggest</i> reason, or reasons I should say is because A.) I commute, so I have 2-4 hours in the morning everyday to meet people and make friends before I head home and B.) I have nothing in common with those people. They all have their country clubs and their second homes while my single-parent home shakes on its foundation because of my father's negligence. What do I talk to these people about? How can I relate to them? The answer is: I can't. Hell I can't even hold a lan party and find out where the gamers are there because since I don't live on campus, I can't have the party closer than a 30 minute drive away.
I apologize, this isn't my thread and I ranted in it. You are under no circumstances obligated to read that. ^
As for my 'type' I wouldn't worry... I don't really click into categories well but I don't think many people do. I fit my star sign to a T but that's about it really ^^
I'm definitely closer to the extrovert than introvert by a good long mile though =3
Still there's a big difference between acquaintances, friends and super mega closest bestest friends XD