Woman Troubles
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Okay, theres this girl (surprising how many stories of this nature begin with that) whom I have feelings for.
Of course, she doesn't know.
Anyway, I talk to her regularly, so it isn't as if I'm a stranger. Quite the opposite, in fact, she has confided in me with some rather personal issues.
The problem is, I had been feeling a bit depressed today because she is, in my opinion, unattainable (which is probably an exageration, something worth noting as over-exageration is a recurring habit for me). She asked what I was thinking about, and I told her I was thinking about someone I cared about.
Immediatly, she wanted to know who.
She said she wouldn't tell any one, and I responded with, "No, I'm sure that she'll [the girl I'm talking to] will find out even if I tell only you."
I managed to skirt around the issue for a while until a distraction made itself available. Unfortunetly, not before I had to promise her I would tell her who I had feelings for tomorrow.
I want to tell her how I feel, but I'm unaware of how to approach the issue when it inevitably comes up tomorrow.
So... how do I tackle this?
Okay, theres this girl (surprising how many stories of this nature begin with that) whom I have feelings for.
Of course, she doesn't know.
Anyway, I talk to her regularly, so it isn't as if I'm a stranger. Quite the opposite, in fact, she has confided in me with some rather personal issues.
The problem is, I had been feeling a bit depressed today because she is, in my opinion, unattainable (which is probably an exageration, something worth noting as over-exageration is a recurring habit for me). She asked what I was thinking about, and I told her I was thinking about someone I cared about.
Immediatly, she wanted to know who.
She said she wouldn't tell any one, and I responded with, "No, I'm sure that she'll [the girl I'm talking to] will find out even if I tell only you."
I managed to skirt around the issue for a while until a distraction made itself available. Unfortunetly, not before I had to promise her I would tell her who I had feelings for tomorrow.
I want to tell her how I feel, but I'm unaware of how to approach the issue when it inevitably comes up tomorrow.
So... how do I tackle this?
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You're gonna be mad at yourself if you let the oppurtunity slip by.
-calldown
Just when she comes up to you tomorrow and asks: tell her. I know that the main reason that i'd never get any girl i like is becuse i don't even have the opportunity to talk to them.
Just be aware of the old fall back of "lets be friends" and be well prepared for it.
I'm cynical when it comes to anything, including my own efforts...
Edit: Actually, I've been rejected many times before, mostly because I made bad choices, so I'm always prepared for that.
And, I also wouldn't really have too much of a problem being friends, but if I don't have to settle, I won't.
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Of course, we'll also regret some of the things we did do.
Note: I tend to exaggerate.
take it from me. i have (had) the same situation with my best friend since 6th grade. only thing is, i never told her how i felt. she's been thru 2 bfs and is now on her third and they've been goin out for some time. i'm afraid my 3 strikes are up.
so go for it totally. even if she says no, you two will still be friends, i'm sure.
from what youve described i agree
Life can suck or life can be awsome, just take the plunge.
I am none of the above <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Let me explain by saying...MY ***** OF AN EX STOLE MY SNES!!!
Thank you for your time...
Oh, I don't need a relationship right now, I need money, the only relationship I need is the internet drinking relationship with Athena <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /><!--endemo-->
there's only one way in. you knew it befored you asked taht question.
just tell her the troof.
I think you'll be more than happy with the results <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /><!--endemo-->.
Even better yet, don't tackle this, tackle HER!
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there ya go!
And she lives!? What kind of a man are you to let anyone, let alone a woman, steal you're SNES and remain above the dirt?
There's not really anything you can do to affect the outcome, hope for the best - and I doubt the girl you're referring to returns to a different country at the end of the school year, so you might have a slightly larger repercusion (especially if you're not a senior) if you get down and she's really popular.
Sounds a lot like me though, you should do it.
'Tis a braver man that I, who would look into a woman's eye and state their love without fear of repercussion in name or pride. Well, to someone they're not dating anyway <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo--> .
In the words of that guy in Waterboy: Youuuu caaahn dooooo eeeet.
Immediatly, she wanted to know who.
She said she wouldn't tell any one, and I responded with, "No, I'm sure that she will find out even if I tell only you."<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Okay, so she regularly confides in you, notices you are depressed and asks what you're thinking about, becomes interested when you say you're thinking about someone you care about, and she made you promise to tell her who it is tomorrow?
Sounds to me like she already knows, dude. Or at least thinks she does.
Never underestimate a good woman, my boy. They know more than you think, tell you less than they know, and are mysteriously silent when they've got something to say.
Confused? Sure, me too. But it's all worth it.
:o
admit it, that was all of your aims <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /><!--endemo-->
anyway, I'm not going to offer advice on relationships... because mine suck. so yea. good luck.
Immediatly, she wanted to know who.
She said she wouldn't tell any one, and I responded with, "No, I'm sure that she will find out even if I tell only you."<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Okay, so she regularly confides in you, notices you are depressed and asks what you're thinking about, becomes interested when you say you're thinking about someone you care about, and she made you promise to tell her who it is tomorrow?
Sounds to me like she already knows, dude. Or at least thinks she does.
Never underestimate a good woman, my boy. They know more than you think, tell you less than they know, and are mysteriously silent when they've got something to say.
Confused? Sure, me too. But it's all worth it. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Ownage.
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I guess I'll do what I have to...
And even if she does forget about it tomorrow, I think I'll bring it up anyway; as you've all said, better to try and fail than to spend the rest of my life wondering...