The results of me party
Deadlocke666
Join Date: 2002-06-06 Member: 732Members
Join Date: 2002-06-06 Member: 732Members
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<div class="IPBDescription">How am i supposed to feel?</div>well, My slumber party, all nighter rpg/anime/icecream Bonanza is over. Oh man, it was soo much fun :-D
Almost all my friends came, cept for one but she's sick so I understand
And we had soo much fun!!! I mean it was great.
But then, after it all ended, my brother Came home crying on sunday night. He was all red faced and I hugged him and his heart was pounding so hard.
I asked him what was wrong?
He said that he lost his bestfriend, and he'll never be able to talk to his bestfriend again. He went into his room, and started playing Day of Defeat. I thought he would be okay, but then I come back 20 mins later, and he's sitting on his bed, crying, with a Razor in his hands. He had several short, but deep cuts along his arm and said "Why does God hate me?" I was so heartbroken and I hugged him.
Why does this stuff happen? Good things happen to me, but then my family goes through rivers of broken glass. Im sorry to be posting this on this forum, but I really dont have anywhere else to get massive feedback.
Later, I found out that his bestfriend was a girl whom he loved very much and for 4 years. I found out that she had cursed at him, then called him a liar, then went out with a person who publicly stated that he hates my brother.
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Im not sure what to do now, but I know that my brother needs help. Any advice would be greatly apreciated
Almost all my friends came, cept for one but she's sick so I understand
And we had soo much fun!!! I mean it was great.
But then, after it all ended, my brother Came home crying on sunday night. He was all red faced and I hugged him and his heart was pounding so hard.
I asked him what was wrong?
He said that he lost his bestfriend, and he'll never be able to talk to his bestfriend again. He went into his room, and started playing Day of Defeat. I thought he would be okay, but then I come back 20 mins later, and he's sitting on his bed, crying, with a Razor in his hands. He had several short, but deep cuts along his arm and said "Why does God hate me?" I was so heartbroken and I hugged him.
Why does this stuff happen? Good things happen to me, but then my family goes through rivers of broken glass. Im sorry to be posting this on this forum, but I really dont have anywhere else to get massive feedback.
Later, I found out that his bestfriend was a girl whom he loved very much and for 4 years. I found out that she had cursed at him, then called him a liar, then went out with a person who publicly stated that he hates my brother.
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Im not sure what to do now, but I know that my brother needs help. Any advice would be greatly apreciated
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There is one universal constant that I believe applies to 95% of the world when it comes to dating... you have to have bad relationships/experiences so that when something good comes along you know it for sure. I had about 3 bad breakups when I was 14-16, and during each of them I was depressed for about 3 weeks. I never did anything suicidal, but I honestly didn't care about my life during that time.
The best advice I could offer you is to just be there for him, and explain to him that he's too young to let things like this worry him too much. Sure, it will hurt, and there's little that can be done for that. Pain heals, and sooner or later people like this girl are either going to realize their mistake and come around, or they won't matter to him anymore. Cheer him up anyway you can (gaming is a start), and let him know you're there for him to talk to if he ever feels comfortable enough to do it. At least he has a loving sister.
He showed me a game along time ago called "Doom 2" and ever since then, I've loved to play games with him. He taught me how to dance, he did my makeup for me for my Birthday, he defended me from these guys who wanted to violate me when I was 13 and he taught me how to program in C++.
:'<!--emo&;)--><img src="http://www.natural-selection.org/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--> I love my big brother. He's the Guy you see in the mall, with Mulitcolored hair, and an Acoustic guitar strapped on his back, always helping people he doesn't even know. He's the guy who never defends himself, but always is ready to rip someone apart who's hurting the people he loves. He's also the guy who has extremely low self esteem and lets people walk over him.
The Outgoing, Caring, Nerdy, Crazy looking guy who is more gentle than a Summer breeze.
It hurts that he's hurting, but maybe if I keep being near him he wont feel so bad.
Thank you for talking to me sir
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believe it or not, your brother is just like me apart from the hair and the guitar. and the cool sister, i need me one of those
But anyway i feel sorry for him, you and anyone else that this has made unhappy
Really though, there must be something more to it like bad self image or some other hormonal nonsense. The only advice I have is to be his friend. You're obviously close so if anyone can cheer him up it's you. However, if you think he's really in trouble, you should get him help ASAP. Always better to be safe than sorry.
You're 16 now, don't forget to enjoy it! <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://www.natural-selection.org/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo-->
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Fixing ovens is amusing.
Whatever you do, you can't let him start using that razor. I've known a person or two that starts cutting themselves and after that its a hell of a time to get them to stop.
Just be there for him, listen, ask how he's holdin' up occasionally.
As you can see im very passionate about this. And my freind Ami... well shes a lesbian and i dont consider a freind any more. Apparently i was dating someone, and she was cheating on me with Ami. When i found out... well you get the idea, it happened about 3 months ago. I'll never forgive her but we still talk a little bit.
hmmm, your brother kinda sounds like me :/
How old is he now`?
He will probably be trying to use that razor when you're not around at the early stages, so be careful. Give a reason to stay alive and he'll soon realize by himself that his life is still worth living
<span style='color:black'>Dead is annyoing, "she" (lets be honest, dead is probably a guy) acts too over the top. EVERYONE has problems, not to sound cold, or heartless - but deal with it. Get over it. I have had things about 5 times worse than that happen to me. Do you see me on here being a pity #####? Get over it, dead. Oh, and have a nice day.</span>
Edit, on a lighter side note...
Next time you have a party, try getting DDR and pad, seroisly, its so fun, i had a blast lastweekend playing it <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.natural-selection.org/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
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I'm sure your brother will come around in time, give him awhile. Breakups are the worst, but they DO happen, and people just have to live with it.
Today, during Toonami on Cartoon network, my brother pulled that God Forsaken razor out of his Back pocket. I looked at him and said "Cut me too if your going to cut yourself" and a tear ran down my face. When he saw that, he went into the backyard, and tossed the razor into the forest behind us. He came back and hugged me and said "Im not going to hurt you again." <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.natural-selection.org/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
Everything is going to be just fine. Im planning to taking him with me and my friends when we have our Street Fighter Alpha 3 Sessions. He'll feel better once my friend Amanda has whooped his ### with Zangief. Things will be good , I know they will
You both take care of yourselves and i'm sure your brother realises that while killing himself might be a way for him to get away from it all it would also destroy everyone that loves him most in the world, I'm so glad he threw the razor away, take care of one another.
Blinkin
I mean, deadlocke, I know EXACTLY how your brother feels, and I'm really sorry he had to resort to cutting himself over it. I know EXACTLY how you feel being on the side that gets hurt from him cutting himself. Hope everything stays as fine as you say it's going to be...
RBY, I have a great best friend like you had, I'm very sad to hear that you had to lose her, hopefully you'll find someone else, girlfriend and/or best friend.
Overall, hope everything works out for the best for both of you.
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Hehe your brother sounds like me. Except for the hair and guitar. I'm kinda having the same trouble he has been having. I liked this one girl for well over a year now and I just asked her out about a month ago. She did not give me an answer but instead said and I quote "OoOo...Im sorry....Im seeing someone else thou.....thank you for telling me thou". She has not talked to me since (I can quote it like that cause I asked her on AIM <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://www.natural-selection.org/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo-->). I don't know what to do. I have her phone #(she gave it to me end of freshman year and now its the end of sophmore year) but I'm too nervous to talk to call her.
As for your brother just try to be there for him. Let him know there are people that are going through the samething. (Sorry if this is over with. I just read the first page.)
I showed my brother this site. He read all the good coments you guys said, and he told me something that I will never forget......."When your heart breaks, friends can help Sew it back together with nothing but words"
He was soo happy, and I played a few games of Heroes of Might and Magic 3 with him(I let him win once, then I played to my fullest the rest of the games, but he still beat me 2 more times that I beat him). We stayed on his computer until like 9pm today. Then he hugged me and said "The Sun rises, even if I dont want it to rise" and smiled. He then went out with his friends, and he's coming back at like 12 he said.
I was soo happy. He looked so much healthier today than he has for like awhile. Thank you all so much for being a caring Community. I was completely right about you all <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://www.natural-selection.org/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo-->