I Think I Need Anger Managment Classes...
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title = name(self, handle) Join Date: 2003-02-15 Member: 13597Members, Constellation
title = name(self, handle) Join Date: 2003-02-15 Member: 13597Members, Constellation
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<div class="IPBDescription">I just kicked in the wall...</div> I swear my brother's purpose in life is to bug the **** out of me.
I just kicked a hole in the wall without meening to because I was angry, now I can understand being angry, but what I was angry about scares me.
My 11 year old brother was pestering me to make him a custom spray for CS or somthing. I told him later, I was playing WoW <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Anyway, it comes down to he's banging on my door trying to get me to make him a spray, I keep telling him later, so I punch him, he continues after he catches his breath. I try talking to him and attempting to get him to leave me alone, I failed.
My mom took his side and told me to drop what I was doing to make him a spray, I really don't get this... Anyway, it leads to yelling and him trying to make my fuse even shorter than it was by threatening to disconnect the router in the other room and locking the door, just beofre he gets to close the door I run into the door knocking him down, realize that I was over reacting then other things happened that I really don't remember any more because I was really **** off by then.
It leads down to me yelling louder than I thought I could and my foot going through the drywall, my mom calling me an **** hole and by brother crying in fear of me, affraid to open the door.
I don't want to be like this, it scares me, I don't want to hurt anyone, but I get so **** off at the littelist things and it ads up untill I explode.
I just kicked a hole in the wall without meening to because I was angry, now I can understand being angry, but what I was angry about scares me.
My 11 year old brother was pestering me to make him a custom spray for CS or somthing. I told him later, I was playing WoW <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Anyway, it comes down to he's banging on my door trying to get me to make him a spray, I keep telling him later, so I punch him, he continues after he catches his breath. I try talking to him and attempting to get him to leave me alone, I failed.
My mom took his side and told me to drop what I was doing to make him a spray, I really don't get this... Anyway, it leads to yelling and him trying to make my fuse even shorter than it was by threatening to disconnect the router in the other room and locking the door, just beofre he gets to close the door I run into the door knocking him down, realize that I was over reacting then other things happened that I really don't remember any more because I was really **** off by then.
It leads down to me yelling louder than I thought I could and my foot going through the drywall, my mom calling me an **** hole and by brother crying in fear of me, affraid to open the door.
I don't want to be like this, it scares me, I don't want to hurt anyone, but I get so **** off at the littelist things and it ads up untill I explode.
Comments
<b>NEXT TIME, MAKE THE GOD DAMN SPRAY, MAN!</b>
Oh yeah, stop playing WoW, you get really ticked whenever someone tells you to do something when playing it.
But real control will have to come from "will power".
I think if you're concerned about your temper and want to change yourself, you're doing something quite good, but you really have to be willing to change yourself. Sometimes, it means that you have to give up on what you want in order to help other people, even if you don't think you should. In this example, none of this would have happened if you had just made your brother a spray in the first place, although I'm sure you would have reservations about doing it, since it would be a bad precedent (ie. that he could bug you for anything whenever he wants). Thus, controlling your anger would cost you a bit in pride, but if you don't want to live with your anger, this is a price you're probably going to have to pay.
Don't go to anger managment. It's bull.
Weird as it sounds, I was really angry all the time a while back, then (and I don't really know why) when I started working at a supermarket (Woolworths > Coles), the rest of my life just sort of got calmer.
I guess it's because you have to learn to put up with all sorts of **** with a smile on your face so as to get paid. You learn (not through being taught, but through experience) little tactics to help defuse other people's anger, and your own.
Pfft, drywall. I'm suprised it didn't just cave in by itself. Your brother sounds like he was behaving a little bit bratty, and he probably knows it.
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Are you kidding? Next time he should just uninstall CS from his brothers harddrive when he isn't at home instead of hiting him.
I had three younger siblings who thankfully knew me enough not to get on my nerves and I only really lost my temper with my sister once after working flatout for 72 hours getting an office network designed by the devil himself to work.
Maybe he'll leave you the **** alone now, eh?
w/e man, people need to explode every once in a while, you didn't hurt anyone, I'd probably do something around what you did if I was in that spot, I have a short fuse when I'm constantly annoyed. It's not like you didn't try to solve it normally anyway, he wouldn't essteeeffyou <-- lol so you blew up and he did. **** happens, it's life.
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rofl@Testament
I know myself, when I was in my teens, IF ANYONE asked me to do something more than once while I was playing my sega mega drive, I would explode in rage... its a comon occurence, and one thing you would be told in anger management would be to stop playing games.
Oh, the irony <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/smile-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
i only have 1 knuckle on one hand, and have some permanent mad scarring around my body , from punches, knives etc... i was a very angry kid and i solved it by fighting...
im only 19 now, but happy, i work out 5 times a week for 3 hours at a time coupled with a run every morning, it keeps my anger down, and i manage to work, and hold down a relationship ontop <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
i used to get a intense rage down me for no reason, over simple stuff like you said dont know why, and i cant advise, as it went the same over and over and never got better...
keep the "iam a badass guy who will go crazy and mad and punch you in the face!" image to your brother - oh brother (brother?) will he have respect through fear or what?
and remember kids, respect through fear is a good thing...
my other plan involves a beartrap and ductape... but that isnt legal.
still, holes in walls are not good (it lets out the heat)
yah, offer to fix the wall, and next time your bro decides to pester you just ignore the little twit.
I personaly would have given him 5 mins to SUYF before I refused to do any work for him.