Meeting Women
DiscoZombie
Join Date: 2003-08-05 Member: 18951Members
Join Date: 2003-08-05 Member: 18951Members
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<div class="IPBDescription">how do you do it?</div> see topic. =P basically, 2 out of 3 real relationships I've had were with girls I met on the internet... the first one I was with for 5 years, met her via her website. I was truly in love with her, she's the standard by which all future women are judged. The second one I met IRL through college, only lasted a couple months. The third I met through a personals website (woo personals.theonion.com).
anyway, oddly enough, I'm leaning LESS toward internet dating now that I'm older; I wish I knew where a post-college guy goes go to meet people... the daily grind involves going to work and going home, not much space for meeting people... maybe once a week I go hang out with a friend or friends -- though at this point my best friends are either female or engaged, and so it's not exactly easy to pick up chiex while sitting in a bar/restaurant with a girl you're just friends with, or a couple. I live 15 minutes from NYC too, you'd think I'd have an easy time of it =/
anyway, suggestions? how did all of you blessed with significant others meet them? I'm getting desperate, I'm not good at being alone <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo-->
anyway, oddly enough, I'm leaning LESS toward internet dating now that I'm older; I wish I knew where a post-college guy goes go to meet people... the daily grind involves going to work and going home, not much space for meeting people... maybe once a week I go hang out with a friend or friends -- though at this point my best friends are either female or engaged, and so it's not exactly easy to pick up chiex while sitting in a bar/restaurant with a girl you're just friends with, or a couple. I live 15 minutes from NYC too, you'd think I'd have an easy time of it =/
anyway, suggestions? how did all of you blessed with significant others meet them? I'm getting desperate, I'm not good at being alone <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo-->
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2. Go to blatantly co-ed classes/activities - acting courses, dance classes, etc
Too many guys feel they need some kind of strategy or hook to talk to women, and its totally wrong. Just talk to them like you would anyone. Saying "Hi, my name is..........." or go for a more situational approach. "Hi, could you spare a cigarette?"..... once you've started talking, just ask their name..... what they are doing here, can you buy them a drink, so on and so forth.
It took me years to figure this out, and many female friends kept suggesting it. The worst thing you can do it not try, that will ensure you dont meet anyone.
[edit] Oh ya, and make sure you dont look intimidating. SMILE, at least a few times, its much easier to talk to/approach someone who doesnt look angry or upset.[/edit]
the smoking thing only works if they are already smoking, hence why i stated it was situational <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
youve heard all about my failed relationships...
but you know <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo--> im sorted now. im set.
depends what you are after imo...
when i was after girls who would like... worship me.. kinda thing.. like its nice to be treated like the don for abit.. i would try to pickup at a gym... where i can show off my body etc..
if i was lookin for sex.. and lets be honest... some guys just are... then i would just go straight to the pub called spoons.
but yeah.. all in all of the 17 women i have slept with... i think i was only in love with 3 the rest were horrible mistakes...
but yeah, oddly enough... the 3 that werent mistakes.. i met all 3 online... says anything?
the thing with onlineness is... you get to know the person b4 the physical side...
even if you dont go for looks only... you do. that is how we are made.. we react to what we define as nice... so you really DO pickup on what you like
DZ.. dont worry bro... you know me and you are kewl <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
i got one idea tho... DZ and Esuna?! thatd be a match made in heaven.. either that or a match made in the blue oyster bar..
At least you don't live in Quebec while the girl you're in love with lives in roughly the middle of the US (From top to bottom). She's so close, but still so far. :/
At least you don't live in Quebec while the girl you're in love with lives in roughly the middle of the US (From top to bottom). She's so close, but still so far. :/ <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Heh? And you think that's far? Mine lives in BC and I'm in central Europe. Weeeeeeeeee!
At least you don't live in Quebec while the girl you're in love with lives in roughly the middle of the US (From top to bottom). She's so close, but still so far. :/ <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Heh? And you think that's far? Mine lives in BC and I'm in central Europe. Weeeeeeeeee! <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
You both got me beat, farthest I can boast is across a time zone, and in the time I was with her I saw her more than I've seen mine current gf, who only lives across town, quite messed up.
lol gg obviousness <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
esuna is a dude... in both senses... as in.. he is a dude as in he has meat and 2.
and he is a dude in the sense of a bloody nice bloke!
EDIT - my gf lives in manchester, i live down just below london... 200 miles roughly
At least you don't live in Quebec while the girl you're in love with lives in roughly the middle of the US (From top to bottom). She's so close, but still so far. :/ <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Heh? And you think that's far? Mine lives in BC and I'm in central Europe. Weeeeeeeeee! <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
It is when you're a 15-year old without a car, a plane, or money for either.
mystery -> humour + unpredictability = stability [?? sus <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->]
work the mysterious factor until youre in good with the girl, then let out your humourous side to keep it going, while still being unpredictable
mysterious = no fast or decisive movement [cutting gestures with your hand to explain a point, etc] movement. everything in your body should promote smooth, openness <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif' /><!--endemo--> make the minimum amount of movement, slow down all your actions heaps
stare at whoever youre interested in, let her avert her gaze first, but its not a staring competition. just keep looking at her, one eyebrow raised etc <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif' /><!--endemo-->
be confident, dont ask questions or refer leadership to another person. and dont be lazy, or 'stoned'... just be comfortable
this coming from an internet nerd who has no basis for offering advice whatsoever
take whatever you read with a grain of salt. or a bucket.
Moq, for example -- do you go to bars solo or only with a couple mates? because seriously, the only male friends I have are g4y and don't want to go to str8 bars with me =P and going with my female friends -- just wouldn't make it easy to meet someone...
*makes mental note to hit on Esuna*
Take Domo's confidence and eediot's style and stir. Then tell yourself that it doesn't matter if this one girl sticks around to talk to you. There are more women out there than you could possibly imagine. Go on believing in "Fate" and the "Woman Of My Dreams" scenario. The rest of us will be meeting all the women you're ignoring.
Even better, following these steps, one day you'll be out and about working your magic and some woman will walk up to you. After that, you're on your own. Good luck <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Ask for the time.
That's how I've met the last four girls I've been with.
or you can do what I always say:
be your self <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo-->
or you can do what I always say:
be your self <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
I use:
"So... umm... how much?"
But seriously. This is not the place to ask.
You're asking how to meat women in a gaming forum?
Ok my advice:
Click the cross button in the far right corner of IE.
Go outside and do what you like doing the most. (note: Nothing to do with compters)
When doing what you like (eg. playing footie). You are bound to meet
someone like you. From that point only thing is to say hi and the converstation
will just continue. No reason forcing it to. If nothing 'clicks' she's not for you.
But seriously. This is not the place to ask.
You're asking how to meat women in a gaming forum? <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
you're assuming people here don't know anything about girls.
and that's offensive.
Now I feel unnoticed. :/
Now I feel unnoticed. :/ <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
well, CF, you're just a "special case"...
Very "special."
or you can do what I always say:
be your self <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
You're assuming we're not creepy nerdlings that never see daylight.
<!--QuoteBegin-Damu+--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Damu)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin-->OK umm... No offense meant anyone
But seriously. This is not the place to ask.
You're asking how to meat women in a gaming forum?
Ok my advice:
Click the cross button in the far right corner of IE.
Go outside and do what you like doing the most. (note: Nothing to do with compters)
When doing what you like (eg. playing footie). You are bound to meet
someone like you. From that point only thing is to say hi and the converstation
will just continue. No reason forcing it to. If nothing 'clicks' she's not for you.<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Most of the people I know with so-called "social lives" and "go out and party" are the most boring tarts I know.