BreakthroughTexture Artist (ns_prometheus)Join Date: 2005-03-27Member: 46620Members, Constellation
<!--QuoteBegin-Nemesis Zero+Jun 7 2005, 06:34 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Nemesis Zero @ Jun 7 2005, 06:34 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> And, most importantly:[LIST] [*]Get advice from someone else but people you met on the web. This might be a good time to ask family members for advice, actually. They know you, they know the general social environment, but they're likely not directly involved (unless you hide a completely different layer of screw up from us here <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->). <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Best advice anyone could give you - the thread will continue to fill up with mindless posts, sarcasm, etc...
I'm not sure of what I would do in your situation, but remember this - you can always fix your mistakes, and everything is bound to work out later on.
SinSpawnHarbinger of SufferingJoin Date: 2002-11-12Member: 8359Members
I can't really see how people can just joke about it and leave a pointless reply. its just not really that helpful. Especially "way to go man" <!--emo&???--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/confused-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='confused-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Thank god I'm an emotionless barsteward so this will nevar happen to me.
moultanoCreator of ns_shiva.Join Date: 2002-12-14Member: 10806Members, NS1 Playtester, Contributor, Constellation, NS2 Playtester, Squad Five Blue, Reinforced - Shadow, WC 2013 - Gold, NS2 Community Developer, Pistachionauts
edited June 2005
Honestly I don't think any amount of planning or thinking is going to affect what happens. I also don't think any of us are going to have enough insight about this guy to recommend a course of action. If he lives within driving distance, I'd say drive over there right now, and after telling him, leave the second he asks you to. Don't try to defend yourself whatsoever (verbally at least, and I wouldn't physically either) But then again, I don't know this guy. If you ever want this guy to trust you again though, make sure he's not the one who has to ask you about it.
<!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/sad-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad-fix.gif' /><!--endemo--> Good luck Karma But seriously, please dont listen to us, look to the people you love. They can probably help you. <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/sad-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Yeah, that'd be my next question. If he all but ran off on her yesterday, things are quite likely to sway in the next few days. If he has even a few of the qualities that justify him being called anyone's "best friend", he'll have enough parental instincts to at least try to work something out with her.
I'm really sorry you can't take this up with your parents. I'd still consider it. We often underestimate our older's ability of coping with difficult situations. You aren't ten, after all. A beating won't help anyone (plus, you're likely to get one, anyway, so why worry the knuckles down?), and your father is likely to know that.
<!--QuoteBegin--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> </td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin-->Honestly I don't think any amount of planning or thinking is going to affect what happens.<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> I disagree. This is not about lessening the blow, least of all for oneself (planning would indeed be pointless there), it's about getting the head free enough to simply be a friend to him and her.
[edit]Just realized something... Karma, if this is your next Advanced Literature assignment, you <i>will</i> get a beating. <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->[/edit]
<!--QuoteBegin-Nemesis Zero+Jun 7 2005, 06:47 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Nemesis Zero @ Jun 7 2005, 06:47 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Best of luck.
[edit]Just realized something... Karma, if this is your next Advanced Literature assignment, you <i>will</i> get a beating. <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->[/edit] <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Hmm? Explain please... i've always wondered about that title.
<!--QuoteBegin--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> </td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin-->Today. She ain't showin or anything.<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
So after less than a day, his poor reaction to an unplanned and unexpected pregnancy means their relationship is over and that he ran off? Don't you think you're rationalizing just a wee bit here?
<!--QuoteBegin-Nil IQ+Jun 7 2005, 04:54 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Nil IQ @ Jun 7 2005, 04:54 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin-Nemesis Zero+Jun 7 2005, 06:47 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Nemesis Zero @ Jun 7 2005, 06:47 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Best of luck.
[edit]Just realized something... Karma, if this is your next Advanced Literature assignment, you <i>will</i> get a beating. <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->[/edit] <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> Hmm? Explain please... i've always wondered about that title. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> basicly he tricked the entire forums into thinking that some wild animals were in his house and he needed help
in the end he told us it was a persuasive essay project and he got a 7
BK once created a kind of 'Blair Witch Forum Project' in which he wrote about a monster haunting their backyard for a while, bringing some members so far as a to panic when he dropped offline for a few days, all as a very imaginative completition of an Advanced Literature coursework.
I instinctually disbelieve pretty much everything online. I get around my cynicism with acting and roleplaying. I don't actually believe the stuff, but I can pretend like I do just in case it actually is true.
And miss up on the reason for righteous wrath if it turns out to be a hoax? <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
<!--QuoteBegin-Nemesis Zero+Jun 7 2005, 06:56 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Nemesis Zero @ Jun 7 2005, 06:56 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> BK once created a kind of 'Blair Witch Forum Project' in which he wrote about a monster haunting their backyard for a while, bringing some members so far as a to panic when he dropped offline for a few days, all as a very imaginative completition of an Advanced Literature coursework. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> In which case i'm amazed you managed to hold your cynisism (sp?) back until page three. That said, it kind of sucks to be him if it isn't true.
Karma, I hope you come back from your trip to your friends place in one piece and in the same shape as when you left...
I can live without righteous wrath. If it's a hoax, congratulations to him for making people believe in it. I'm not one of them really, but I acknowledge that I might be wrong and therefore assume that it is real. I mean, if I'm right and it's all made up, what's the worst the can happen? Someone will feel a little smug because he supposedly managed to trick me? Or if I'm wrong, I say some pretty insensitive stuff that could make the person feel worse. At this point it doesn't really matter because either it's real and he left (hence making the thread redundant), or it's not and it doesn't matter what I say.
Like I said Nem, I'm a suspicious person and I always question the source.
Good luck telling him and I hope it does not affect your friendship very much <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/sad-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
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<!--QuoteBegin-Obst+Jun 7 2005, 08:45 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Obst @ Jun 7 2005, 08:45 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Good luck telling him and I hope it does not affect your friendship very much <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/sad-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad-fix.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Affect his friendship? I'm hoping someone doesn't get <i>murdered</i>. I mean, seriously. This isn't like he borrowed his toolbox and forgot to give it back for six months. People kill other people over **** like this.
He only had sex with his friend's pregnant girlfriend, it isn't the end of the world. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> ...
I still can't understand your desire to tell your friend what you've done.....this isn't some stupid soap opera where you will get found out as long as you an her keep quiet about it it's all good.
Trust me on this no good what so ever will come from your friend finding out what happened, I've been in a similar situation in the past my best mate an my GF knocking boots <!--emo&???--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/confused-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='confused-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->. It was a one off thing they seriousy regreted it and they ended up telling me but I wish they hadn't because I lost a best friend and a GF cos of it. Some things are better left unsaid.
So you sept with her big deal, it's not like your making a habbit out of it and having a full blown affair behind his back (or are you?) from what you've said it appears to have been a one off. Phone him tomorrow and you'll lose a friend, and blow any chance on them being together and prolly cop the blame for them sitting up if they do.
He only had sex with his friend's pregnant girlfriend, it isn't the end of the world. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> ...
God i hope that was sarcastic... <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> No sarcasm in that at all.
I mean come on, sex and recreation is everything life is about, so why the terror when the girl you sleep with suddenly sleeps with someone else?
As long as she is willing to return to you it should be no problem at all, and seeing that she can't even become pregnant by her actions (because she already was before) there isn't even a reason to be angry...
<!--QuoteBegin-CommunistWithAGun+--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (CommunistWithAGun)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin-->Do her again, all the way till month 9<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
If both of you enjoy it there is nothing wrong with it.
He only had sex with his friend's pregnant girlfriend, it isn't the end of the world. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> ...
God i hope that was sarcastic... <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> No sarcasm in that at all.
I mean come on, sex and recreation is everything life is about, so why the terror when the girl you sleep with suddenly sleeps with someone else?
As long as she is willing to return to you it should be no problem at all, and seeing that she can't even become pregnant by her actions (because she already was before) there isn't even a reason to be angry...
<!--QuoteBegin-CommunistWithAGun+--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (CommunistWithAGun)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin-->Do her again, all the way till month 9<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
If both of you enjoy it there is nothing wrong with it. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Are you some sort of crazy stupid pagan/mormon?
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Emotions..nothing but troubles.
Stuff like this, you have to be cautious and supportive not jump on the band wagon :/ and think, this'll blow over.
oh mi godd...theres no words to dignify this but 'holy crap'
[*]Get advice from someone else but people you met on the web. This might be a good time to ask family members for advice, actually. They know you, they know the general social environment, but they're likely not directly involved (unless you hide a completely different layer of screw up from us here <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->). <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Best advice anyone could give you - the thread will continue to fill up with mindless posts, sarcasm, etc...
I'm not sure of what I would do in your situation, but remember this - you can always fix your mistakes, and everything is bound to work out later on.
Thank god I'm an emotionless barsteward so this will nevar happen to me.
But then again, I don't know this guy. If you ever want this guy to trust you again though, make sure he's not the one who has to ask you about it.
I'm really sorry you can't take this up with your parents. I'd still consider it. We often underestimate our older's ability of coping with difficult situations. You aren't ten, after all. A beating won't help anyone (plus, you're likely to get one, anyway, so why worry the knuckles down?), and your father is likely to know that.
<!--QuoteBegin--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> </td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin-->Honestly I don't think any amount of planning or thinking is going to affect what happens.<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
I disagree. This is not about lessening the blow, least of all for oneself (planning would indeed be pointless there), it's about getting the head free enough to simply be a friend to him and her.
[edit]Just realized something... Karma, if this is your next Advanced Literature assignment, you <i>will</i> get a beating. <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->[/edit]
[edit]Just realized something... Karma, if this is your next Advanced Literature assignment, you <i>will</i> get a beating. <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->[/edit] <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Hmm? Explain please... i've always wondered about that title.
So after less than a day, his poor reaction to an unplanned and unexpected pregnancy means their relationship is over and that he ran off? Don't you think you're rationalizing just a wee bit here?
[edit]Just realized something... Karma, if this is your next Advanced Literature assignment, you <i>will</i> get a beating. <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->[/edit] <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Hmm? Explain please... i've always wondered about that title. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
basicly he tricked the entire forums into thinking that some wild animals were in his house and he needed help
in the end he told us it was a persuasive essay project and he got a 7
In which case i'm amazed you managed to hold your cynisism (sp?) back until page three. That said, it kind of sucks to be him if it isn't true.
Karma, I hope you come back from your trip to your friends place in one piece and in the same shape as when you left...
Like I said Nem, I'm a suspicious person and I always question the source.
Look what you've done
This poor girl has within her oven a bun
Not bad....
Ask them both for a threesome.
<!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
On a serious note...
Good luck telling him and I hope it does not affect your friendship very much <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/sad-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Affect his friendship? I'm hoping someone doesn't get <i>murdered</i>. I mean, seriously. This isn't like he borrowed his toolbox and forgot to give it back for six months. People kill other people over **** like this.
Why?
He only had sex with his friend's pregnant girlfriend, it isn't the end of the world.
Why?
He only had sex with his friend's pregnant girlfriend, it isn't the end of the world. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
...
God i hope that was sarcastic...
Trust me on this no good what so ever will come from your friend finding out what happened, I've been in a similar situation in the past my best mate an my GF knocking boots <!--emo&???--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/confused-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='confused-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->. It was a one off thing they seriousy regreted it and they ended up telling me but I wish they hadn't because I lost a best friend and a GF cos of it. Some things are better left unsaid.
So you sept with her big deal, it's not like your making a habbit out of it and having a full blown affair behind his back (or are you?) from what you've said it appears to have been a one off. Phone him tomorrow and you'll lose a friend, and blow any chance on them being together and prolly cop the blame for them sitting up if they do.
Why?
He only had sex with his friend's pregnant girlfriend, it isn't the end of the world. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
...
God i hope that was sarcastic... <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
No sarcasm in that at all.
I mean come on, sex and recreation is everything life is about, so why the terror when the girl you sleep with suddenly sleeps with someone else?
As long as she is willing to return to you it should be no problem at all, and seeing that she can't even become pregnant by her actions (because she already was before) there isn't even a reason to be angry...
<!--QuoteBegin-CommunistWithAGun+--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (CommunistWithAGun)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin-->Do her again, all the way till month 9<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
If both of you enjoy it there is nothing wrong with it.
Why?
He only had sex with his friend's pregnant girlfriend, it isn't the end of the world. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
...
God i hope that was sarcastic... <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
No sarcasm in that at all.
I mean come on, sex and recreation is everything life is about, so why the terror when the girl you sleep with suddenly sleeps with someone else?
As long as she is willing to return to you it should be no problem at all, and seeing that she can't even become pregnant by her actions (because she already was before) there isn't even a reason to be angry...
<!--QuoteBegin-CommunistWithAGun+--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (CommunistWithAGun)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin-->Do her again, all the way till month 9<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
If both of you enjoy it there is nothing wrong with it. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
Are you some sort of crazy stupid pagan/mormon?