Alcapwn"War is the science of destruction" - John AbbotJoin Date: 2003-06-21Member: 17590Members
Ouch.
Sucks to be you. <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/smile-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Alcapwn"War is the science of destruction" - John AbbotJoin Date: 2003-06-21Member: 17590Members
Its not going to happen. Someone is gonna crack. Wether is tommorow, or 20 years from now when you and your former GF/wife are now living together with a family of three.... <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
<!--QuoteBegin-moultano+Jun 8 2005, 12:04 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (moultano @ Jun 8 2005, 12:04 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> How the **** does something like this happen? <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Alcohol is usually to blame
Struggling out of the speechlessness, you (likely intentionally) didn't give us many things to work with here. All I can say is that I wish you the strength to take whatever course is likely to bring the least pain to all involved.
BadKarmaThe Advanced Literature monsters burned my house and gave me a 7Join Date: 2002-11-12Member: 8260Members
Right, well, she told him she was pregnant and he flipped out. Either she forgot to take the pill and then forgot she forgot, or it just didnt work. So she flips out in return and was a total mess. We've been close friends for a long time, so she comes to talk to me about it. She is really emotional, strung out and was cycling through horrible crying fits and somewhat scary bouts of rage. And after that, im not totally sure how it went down. This is pretty much the most goddamned messed up thing I have ever had happen to me.
<!--QuoteBegin-BadKarma+Jun 8 2005, 12:14 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (BadKarma @ Jun 8 2005, 12:14 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Right, well, she told him she was pregnant and he flipped out. Either she forgot to take the pill and then forgot she forgot, or it just didnt work. So she flips out in return and was a total mess. We've been close friends for a long time, so she comes to talk to me about it. She is really emotional, strung out and was cycling through horrible crying fits and somewhat scary bouts of rage. And after that, im not totally sure how it went down. This is pretty much the most goddamned messed up thing I have ever had happen to me. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> So basically you took advantage of an emotionally distraught woman?
Top man <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
My Girlfriend just read this and said some rather nasty things about you lol and punched me in the arm for calling you a top man.
She was pregnant before right? <!--emo&???--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/confused-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='confused-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
While there's certainly no lack of things I could say to you, I doubt any of them would be very constructive. This is going to get worse before it get's better, and I bloody well hope you learn something from it.
<!--QuoteBegin-Status Quo+Jun 7 2005, 06:19 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Status Quo @ Jun 7 2005, 06:19 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> and I bloody well hope you learn something from it. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> yup.. make sure she's drunk enough not to remember.
<!--QuoteBegin-BadKarma+Jun 7 2005, 05:46 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (BadKarma @ Jun 7 2005, 05:46 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> I just had relations with my best friends pregnant girlfriend. Tomorrow ain't gonna be good. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> ...this is like one of those "brb, tornado" things you see on bash.org.
<!--QuoteBegin-BadKarma+Jun 7 2005, 06:24 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (BadKarma @ Jun 7 2005, 06:24 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin-->This isn't a good thing goddamnit! This is flipping terrible! Christ, I gotta tell him.<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--> In all seriousness, the best thing for you to do (as you feel so guilty) is tell him and take whatever punishment he gives like a man.
The problem is, theres more than you to consider, not only her, but the unborn child.
<!--QuoteBegin-big jim+Jun 7 2005, 06:28 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (big jim @ Jun 7 2005, 06:28 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> take whatever punishment he gives like a man. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd--> Just out of curiousity, what do you think that would be?
BadKarmaThe Advanced Literature monsters burned my house and gave me a 7Join Date: 2002-11-12Member: 8260Members
Was gonna call him on the phone, can't bring myself to do it. I'll tell him in the morning. Im supposed to be the one on the recieving end of this kinda shitstorm. Im ****.
OK, as I understand you, it was a bout of the moment, and not, as Mother Versa here sees it, 'taking advantage' of the situation.
My suggestions:<ul><li>Think about what she said before it happened. How stable would you consider their relationship right now? Might it be better to wait till the waters have smoothened a bit? Note, I don't tell you to hide something, I tell you that it might be better to deliver the truth in doses.</li><li>Talk to her. However you sway, she should know first; it's going to affect her a lot more directly than you.</li><li>Then reach a decision. I'd greatly suggest to be true to your best friend, but be sure to establish a calm, somber situation beforehand. This is nothing to do offhandedly, it is nothing to tell someone with no previous preperation, and it's least of all something to tell someone already emotionally aggrieved.</li><li>Whatever you do, expect some outlashing - depending on your friend verbal or physical.</li></ul>And, most importantly:<ul><li>Get advice from someone else but people you met on the web. This might be a good time to ask family members for advice, actually. They know you, they know the general social environment, but they're likely not directly involved (unless you hide a completely different layer of screw up from us here <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->).</li></ul>Good luck.
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Sucks to be you. <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/smile-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->
This is one of those times where telling the truth is not a good thing.
Um... err...
At least there was no chance of you getting her pregnant?
Alcohol is usually to blame
So basically you took advantage of an emotionally distraught woman?
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My Girlfriend just read this and said some rather nasty things about you lol and punched me in the arm for calling you a top man.
yup.. make sure she's drunk enough not to remember.
...this is like one of those "brb, tornado" things you see on bash.org.
That, and you did your best friend a big favor, REAL BIG.
In all seriousness, the best thing for you to do (as you feel so guilty) is tell him and take whatever punishment he gives like a man.
The problem is, theres more than you to consider, not only her, but the unborn child.
It's a tricky situation.
Just out of curiousity, what do you think that would be?
My suggestions:<ul><li>Think about what she said before it happened. How stable would you consider their relationship right now? Might it be better to wait till the waters have smoothened a bit? Note, I don't tell you to hide something, I tell you that it might be better to deliver the truth in doses.</li><li>Talk to her. However you sway, she should know first; it's going to affect her a lot more directly than you.</li><li>Then reach a decision. I'd greatly suggest to be true to your best friend, but be sure to establish a calm, somber situation beforehand. This is nothing to do offhandedly, it is nothing to tell someone with no previous preperation, and it's least of all something to tell someone already emotionally aggrieved.</li><li>Whatever you do, expect some outlashing - depending on your friend verbal or physical.</li></ul>And, most importantly:<ul><li>Get advice from someone else but people you met on the web. This might be a good time to ask family members for advice, actually. They know you, they know the general social environment, but they're likely not directly involved (unless you hide a completely different layer of screw up from us here <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink-fix.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink-fix.gif' /><!--endemo-->).</li></ul>Good luck.
Thanks for the concern y'all, especially you Nem.